Last Wednesday night I finished removing the small section of fence on the north side of my house to open that as the new way to go into my backyard. I even managed to carry the old rusty fencing and rotten posts out to the roadside for the next morning's garbage pickup. Accomplishing this small task is very satisfying after such a long time that I haven't been able to do most of these kinds of jobs. However, this was not completed in just one try but had to be done in small portions. Since the cauterizing of the radiation colitis lesions I have found that any physical exertion brings on serious bowel urgency. While this phenomenon is diminishing, I could only dig a little, pull a little or cut a little each time. Nevertheless, the path is now opened leaving the moving of the paving stones to a later time, again doing a little at a time.
While recovering from my radiation treatments, it is easy to compare what I can accomplish in any project with what I could do before the cancer and the treatments, but that is just a sure way to get depressed needlessly. The proper comparison is what I am able to do now with what I was able to accomplish at the end of the treatments. At that point I could only manage my basic self care but not much else. Even though I have had to cope with the aftereffects of the radiation, my recovery has continued, sometimes in fits and spurts, sometimes moving forward, sometimes losing a little ground, but nonetheless uninterrupted. Therefore, I can do more now than I could at the end of treatments, as well as more than I could several weeks or months ago.
Over the weekend, I helped my sister as a participant at Sustainable Living Conference. With setting up on Friday afternoon and Saturday morning and taking down the booth on Sunday afternoon and Monday afternoon, it was physically demanding. Furthermore, our presentations also required serious effort as well. Nevertheless, I was able to do it, although I have had to rest much of Monday. The accomplishment of all of this has been very satisfying, especially recognizing the progress that this represents.
On Saturday, I spent a little time talking to a friend who has also been through his own “Journey Through Cancer.” Like we are all inclined to do, he has struggled with the comparison of what he can do now with what he could do years ago. We talked about the common human experience of aging in which we find our physical capacities declining over the years. When we add to this the negative results of our cancer and the additional effects of our various courses of treatment, is it any wonder that we find ourselves not able to do what we did years ago? However, if we look at how little we could do at our lowest point physically in this “Journey,” we can see our progress and, hopefully accept it as it is. Notwithstanding the need of our own efforts in making progress in our recovery, we cannot force it into a rate of progress beyond our rate of healing as a physical process.
All of this experience is applicable to spirituality as well. When I seek to evaluate spiritual progress, it is too easy to compare myself to the ideal, but that is a great mistake most of the time. If I am too far from that ideal, I might give up on all my practice. Rather, I need to see that I have indeed made a degree of progress as I have devoted myself to my practice as well as to learn from the particular experiences of my life. The only time I need to refer to the ideal, particularly buddhahood, is to keep me from becoming too content with any specific level of progress. Nevertheless, I need to develop my compassion out of the various aspects of this disease, its treatment, and the recovery from that treatment. Whether it is the pain or the fatigue or the awareness of mortality, it is all to be dedicated to the benefit of all sentient beings.
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